Saturday, March 22, 2014

Just saying ...


28 comments:

  1. What do you mean?
    I do not understand the sentance Stina.
    Hugs
    Uta

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    1. Dear Uta,

      I'm playing with the English language, but it means that the best thing a woman can have: is knowing her self and not acting out to others from irrational feelings then and there. Like if you have a bad day as a woman, don't act like a crazy person just because of that. Pull yourself together anyhow. Or if you are jealous, go beyond those feelings, restrain them and act as a lady/normal instead of just reacting in a lunatic way because of it.

      It's hard to explain ... Anyone else out there with a better English then mine that can try to explain it better????

      Hugs,
      stina

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    2. You explain it well, Stina :) To me it's about having emotional maturity and behaving with grace, no matter what challenges life throws at you.

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  2. LOVE IT!!!! For sure!

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  3. The explanation was fine, but as a native English speaker I would say that the statement is very crude and not something I would like my daughter to hear from a woman. There are better ways to express the sentiment (which I do agree with).

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    1. I must say I really agree with you but I think it's really something that has to do with one's upbringing and from where you are. In my environment and where I grew up, I would certainly never use words like s*** and I very much would raise an eyebrow if I heard anyone else using it. I have noticed that a lot of non-native speakers of English are quite accustomed to use words that I am not used to hearing in polite conversation. Perhaps it's because the words doesn't hold the same "power" when it's not your mother tongue? Still, the meaning of the sentiment, as you say, is something that would benefit all women. /Celia

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    2. I agree, I come from a very reserved background who abide by social mores but Stina has a bit of an edge about her, I do too.

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    3. If English people could not speak about the weather they would have nothing to talk about...

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    4. ha ha ha Anonymous, I really think it's time for you to broaden your horizons from the English people that you are socializing with! Too funny!

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    5. Actually I quoted an Englishman, but google any culture study of your choise and you'll see the same. Politeness, reservedness and being impersonal are rated higher than individual expression.

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    6. Dear Ladies,

      I know "shit" is not a nice word and I'm not using it in front of my children or in a dinner conversation. But the sentence is true and me myself like when you don't act like a porcelain doll, there's not danger with using a word like that, with restrains and with a hint of humour. Like always, you have to now when and where things are suitable.
      In this blog I find that most readers can take a little bit of edginess and sarcastic humour. Oh would it not be very boring else? And If you don't like me, well, It's part of my package. I'm very well educated and my parents never allowed "bad words" - but I'm also a free spirit and like to do things not too much by the book.

      Sleep well all of you!
      Big hug,
      stina

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    7. Hi Stina! My comment wasn't intended as critique towards you, it was more of a mention since you are now writing in English. I would say that there are definite culture differences when using a more colourful language and that some of your English speaking (no matter where in the world you are from, English is one of my mother tounges but I am not English) readers might have a different impression of. Since moving to Sweden I have noticed that many Swedes who don't really swear a lot in Swedish will do so to a much greater extent when they are speaking English and I do believe it is because non-native speakers doesn't have the same cultural connection to the language. I have been an avid reader of yours for years (without commenting though) and you do have a different expression depending on which language you use, which is perfectly normal. It doesn't have to do with education or class here at all whilst if you were born and bred in the UK (or in the US) some people would most certainly make those kinds of assumptions based on vocabulary, accents etc. Thankfully this is not really the case in Sweden. I certainly enjoy your blog, otherwise I wouldn't read it even though I am a bit conservative ;-) /Celia

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  4. You explained it well Stina. Uta, it's like having your priorities in order, not being "all over the place" in terms of emotions, ambitions etc... not being a "mess" so to speak. Not saying one thing and then behaving the opposite - having your focus on the goal/life you want, and going about getting it in a focused/determined way. It's a self-knowing. I hope this helps a little... :-)

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  5. Stina, which lipstick do you use on the last Instagram-Picture? Unfortunately I don't have an Instagram-Account so I do have to ask you here...
    Kindest regards

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  6. Oh dear Stina, I know what you mean, and Oh my, do I wish I could live by it! ;-) But to learn the art of "keeping my shit together" is so hard sometimes, and you keep dissapointing yourself all the time in this journey of life don´t you think?! But still, it´s a damn good sentence, and I will keep it in mind during this following days!
    Keep being such an inspiring source to us wild women out here, Stina ;-)!
    Love/
    Ulrika

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    1. Not too sound like a "besserwisse" - but I've learned the hard way, experiences in my twenties, to have my shit together pretty well and as a very self analytic person, always eager to do better and learn from my situations and mistakes - I seldom to things I regret any longer. It's actually true.

      Best,
      stina

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    2. Oh good for you;-) I´m older than you, but still struggling with not reacting to much from just hurt feelings or anger. Wish I could be better on taking a step back, breathe, inhale and act a bit calmer and constructive in some situations. I still do things a regret - but you get to do the lessons until you get them right;-)! I really liked this quote of yours and I read it exactly when I needed to be a bit wise and together! And I think it worked well this time, so there´s hope for me as well!;-)
      Love/
      Ulrika

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  7. Thank you for the explanation Stina and other girls.
    I understand now very well. Will try this good sentiment!
    Hugs. Uta

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    1. I'm sure you already live by it Uta!!!

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  8. Svårt att förstå?! Min engelska är nog inte till räckligt bra!

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  9. Whathahhhhhh, yeah you're grat Stina! But so right!
    Let's hope a soon spring to come to Finland and Stockholm too. I love your inspirating blog, thank you!
    Kati

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  10. Thank you Stina for raising issues that concern women everywhere:)

    To me, personally, it means living my life as best as I can, like only I can, accepting my faults, all the while, trying to improve myself. It's a constant struggle to try to find out, who I really am. It's a great skill to have especially during stressful times, those really tell you who you are, what you believe in and what you can do...

    I don't keep a blog, because my life isn't really that interesting, but I love to read and comment on others, who are way ahead of me in, as Stina put it, in having their xxxx together. :) :)

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